Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: broad shoulders, chef, dinner, fabulous, hoodie, hot, jeans, montreal, romantic, sensual, sexy
We’ll call the other boy who I’ve bothered to see more than once or twice, Montreal. Its pretty self explanatory.
He is the opposite of CityBoy. He’s a grown up man, solid job, dresses in gorgeous button downs but looks oh so sexy in jeans and a tee shirt or hoodie (its where is broad shoulders really show), he not only picks the best restaurants and chefs but is a fabulous cook in his own right.
Montreal spoils you every second you are with him… until, you are not, until he’s traveling here or there and bbming with many of the right words… but I’m not really into all talk…
…so I’ll have to let you know about the next fabulous dinner with him…
…did i mention, Montreal is HOT
xVix
Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: boy, chemistry, city, date, eye contact, halloween, hate it, indimitdated, love it, man, manly, ride, sexy
love it or hate it… its a reality in the city.
I am in the hate it crowd, but somehow every other year I forget how much and forgo my evening of scary movies and avoiding crowds to brave a party…
…this year may have been worth it, as I met a boy, and yes I mean boy, not quite a manly man, who hates it too… …our eyes locked, he’s the only man who could truly hold my stare without getting intimidated, it was very very sexy. Our mutual friends watched in awe as we mirrored each other. I so casually slipped my # into his phone that his guy friends praised me and wanted to know how I did it.
My secret, good flirting comes out of the chemistry…and he offered me a ride to my next stop…
….and the next day woke up to a text that had to be shared…
“Hey Vix… So I woke up with a new found appreciation for halloween cause u were on my mind… I hope you’re feeling better. How was your night?”
well I def had a great morning… more to come from this boy, a true city boy. We’ll call him “CityBoy” …but I can’t talk now… late to meet him for brunch 
xVix
Hello Hello!
Been out meeting man after man, going out on 3 dates a week, but sadly nothing exciting had been happening… well that’s all started to change, and I’ve been out having too much fun to post…
…so here goes
xVix
Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: break-up, dating, manhattan, serious, trust, violation, violation of trust
so I mentioned a while back that when I got serious with someone it somehow felt like a violation of trust to write about them.
Well I just got out of something a few weeks ago, and have been thrown headfirst back into the world of dating in Manhattan.
xVix
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Winter season is my busiest by far…dating has not slowed so I’m going to start back logging stories…
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I was interviewed for an article on dating – I considered sending them a link to this but then figured the guys wouldnt appreciate it and honestly, I like keeping my identity under wraps. In fact the one man that did find out I was writing this bugged at a mention of himself…
Also, I accidently let it slip that I have a bad habit of booking two or three dates for the same day and average 3-5 a week.
After I meekly ask if that could be off the record… Too late but she assured me it wouldnt be printed for at least a month, so the day of 3 would not be recognizable to them.
I promise, there will be more juicy details to come… and follow up from recent events…
xVix
Filed under: 1 | Tags: ability, bee, beer, being a man, boobs, busy, dating, economy, football, grill, love of boobs, man, more, movies, porn, scary movies, steak, x
…been busy working like a bee in this economy…
…and dating almost as much…okay maybe more…
but another great quote from a man:
“Well I am a man. And being a man involves scary movies, football, beer, porn, a love of boobs, ability to grill a steak.” -anonymous (and let’s hope he doesn’t find this!)
xVix
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asks the Cayanne…via bbm
“miss me” he says…
I respond… “How can I? We haven’t met… but I do enjoy the attention”
xVix
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bDAbysitTING
What is maturity? Is it the ability to make responsible decisions? is it the capability of controlling certain impulses? Is it a developed awareness of the existence of others aside from ourselves? Is it all of the above?
It is often said that women mature faster than men. That reasoning is commonly used to justuiy couples where the man is so much older than the woman that the relationship resembles some sort of ancient cocubine arrangement.
We often excuse men’s actions because we say they are just ‘immature’, much like we excuse children’s actions because they dont know any better.
but really, after a certain age, shouldn’t men’s actions be judged on some sort of objective scale where certain behavior cannot just be shrugged off as ‘immaturity’, but rather, should be seen for what it is – character.
we lump actions of the men we love/want to love/date/want to date/try to date/ (and every other arrangement on that scale) into the ‘immaturity’ category when we know that what they’ve done or said is not ok. Because truth be told, when something “not ok” is done, its done for one of two reasons, neither of which we want to face, so just shove the action off into the “immaturity” drawer. Those two reasons are 1) the person is the kind of person, personality and character-wise, that does this kind of thing, or 2) the person doesnt give enough of a crap about us to bother acting differently.
Doing things “ok” rather than “not ok” requires caring, kindness, compassion, sacrifice, and awareness of the needs of the other person. so if a man does something “not ok”, again, its for one of the reasons stated above. That he just is a piece of sh*t, or that he doesnt care enough about the relationship (at whatever stage it is in), so put forth the effort to not act like a piece of sh*t. its really quite simple, but neither is a very attractive option,so off to the immaturity drawer we go.
Ladies, after a certain age, an immaturity that results in a man acting chronically selfishly and self-absorbedly will probably not magically dissolve. In fact, selfishness, when cultivated, only grows and becomes more pronounced with age. So open the immaturity drawer, go through it, see the crap thats gone in there for what it is, and toss it all, along with him, out and away.
-yev
