Manhattanvixen’s Blog


4 men, 2 much work
March 27, 2009, 1:46 PM
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So, I’ve been a little slow on the posting. In reality I’ve just been too busy living life and playing. So I met a man; sort of. We haven’t really ‘met’ yet per say, but he is very intense and I wonder why it leaves me with an air of unease?

When we want a man’s attention and we don’t receive it we fight for it, strategically tweet away on facebook or upload a little miss hotshot image to gather comments and be on his radar; then sometimes we have to do very little to hold their attention – a racy comment or demure ‘hmmm’ has them eating out of our palms.

I’m juggling four right now.

Two are normal levels off attention, the call or text, plans in advance boring, reliable and equivocal to a sturdy mid-level four door sedan. Useful. Not exciting. And a solid way to pass between the more exciting nights.

One has true potential. A Jetta or Audi if you will. Fun, comfortable, safe but gets more than a shoulder shrug and fine when your friends get together to dish stories. This one always means to make you smile.

Then there is the Cayenne. Yes, it’s a Porsche, but not really. It is a: my pen1s is bigger than yours; version of a Porsche. None of the same hand made craftsmanship or agility, all of the labels and bragging power. It’s used to being faster and bigger and flashier than the competition but not the best crafted on the inside.

My Cayenne calls, not once when he wants to talk to me but 3 times in a row, calling me baby and getting pissy when I am not thrilled – when he expressly tells me he wants to kiss me the way Ryan Phillipe did to the innocent girl after a few “iced teas” – apparently women swoon at his feet. This new man of mine, well we haven’t ‘met’ in the traditional sense. See this started through a business email then a first phone call, smoothness in each others voices and it just kept going.

Then he proclaimed my favorite line yet, I know it’s been posted but now it has to be repeated. Sorry, for the delays, out living life, but now you know what’s been keeping me:

“First, I’m gonna take a sick day and fly to NY; then im gonna take you for an amazing dinner date somewhere, all dressed up, a long fancy great dinner. So we can let the anticipation build, then I’m gonna take you home with me and #($* you all night.”

 

xVix

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a small poll
March 20, 2009, 1:31 PM
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I had two dates this week and one I really wasn’t feeling, but totally thought I’d have a friend who would be better for him, so I mentioned that and he got ALL OFFENDED!

I was trying to set him up on a date with someone else during our first date.   I actually thought it was a nice move.

no? yes? what do you think?

 

xVix

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hottest, sorta, line I’ve heard in a while
March 12, 2009, 3:50 PM
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“First, I’m gonna take a sick day and fly to NY; then im gonna take you for an amazing dinner date somewhere, all dressed up, a long fancy great dinner.  So we can let the anticipation build, then I’m gonna take you home with me and #($*# you all night.”

 

ummm ok…at least there are some confident ones still out there.. I have to admit, I was a little thrilled by the comment…

xVix

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poly-dating…the monday after a party in nyc
March 9, 2009, 1:22 PM
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BOYmarch09: listen, if you’re game, I’d love to see you again
VIX: well to be just as upfront as u were, I’m figuring some stuff out, but id be game,
BOYmarch09: totally understand.  I am all about being transparent and then people can make up their minds.
VIX: I agree, its important
BOYmarch09: so here’s the other thing…never been in this situation before…but I’m going to see [another girl who was at the party] again
VIX: haha
BOYmarch09: as I say, transparency is best…but whatever, the New York scene is all about polydating
VIX: it is, absolutely, I mean point blank is your leaving
BOYmarch09: exactly. They give me month. Month and a half max :)
VIX: one sec boss
BOYmarch09: I guess I just need to stop “arm raping” people in front of others…np

8 minutes
VIX: hahaha
  did [girl from party] say anything to u about it too?
BOYmarch09: no, not at all
VIX: here’s the thing, as a person I like her, I think she’s great, so frankly I’m not the type that wants to end up making her feel like I just met her and am breaking weird unspoken girl codes
  if that made any sense
BOYmarch09: what did you just erase? :)
  No, totally makes sense
VIX: I mean id never object to a massage…
  lol
 BOYmarch09: haha
  hmmmm
….
BOYmarch09: that is hard…but really typical round here
VIX: hahah yea so its all about being open; btw u were totally loving [other girl from the party] dressing me in that hot little vest I wanted to try on
BOYmarch09: hahaha, indeed
  who wouldn’t?
  you’d have to be a eunuch
VIX: I’m guessing the girl I saw you with in the hall wasn’t enjoying it
BOYmarch09: probably a good guess :) so how should we do this?
  I haven’t spoken to [girl from party] about moving away yet…
  so I don’t know how she will take that…
VIX: did u talk to her about your polydating theories
BOYmarch09: no, I tried to talk to her on the phone yesterday but didn’t connect, text messages are pretty shitty…not that IM is much better…but it is better
VIX: eh I gchat at work to get through the day
 at least its real time
 BOYmarch09: exactly
VIX: so tell me more, how many are u trying to juggle before u leave?
BOYmarch09: I will feel things out a bit with her….
  haha
  only 1 other
VIX: only 3 at a time
  I expected more
 BOYmarch09: well, there were, but no longer:)
VIX: I think my biggest week I had 7 dates 5 diff guys
  shhh don’t tell

 

 xVix  

 

 

 

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Pet Peeves…technology and dating
March 3, 2009, 3:08 PM
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#ONE pet peeve:    men asking for your # to call you when they end up just sending a text. 

Seriously, man up.

I have a new rule, I just do not respond if first contact is made via avoidable textual circumstances

also, if I blatently don’t give you my number or you are too scared to ask for it in the first place, why do you all facebook?

Technology has made men lazy daters and us all game players with way too many outlets – creating false senses of intimacy between people who don’t know each other from another on their list of isntant messanger handles.

but then again, they do say, if its not on facebook its not real?

Call me outdated and old fashioned but the best foreplay is a late night witty banter fueled converstation – not on gchat boys – that goes on till one slips out of conciousness as you hear sleep take over one’s voice…think of how many more things that conjures than an “lol i am sleepy ;) wink wink”

just putting it out there.

 

xVix

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There’s Only So Much Fun In the Past…
March 2, 2009, 2:56 PM
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When the future is happening…

So the column/blog will go back and forth till the past catches up with the future. I’ll start with last week. A date. We met (sorta) online but found ourselves face to face at a cocktail event for a company a mutual friend owns.

Either way it was a night out and I hear my name at a great little lower east side spot. Vix! It’s me, Daven. I stop and look for a moment literally confused, he looks nothing like his picture, I can’t actually reconcile the two images in my mind.

He proceeds to explain to me why he is not too old for me – an excuse I used online due to a horrific picture – and after about a minute of his pure confident air around him I look at him and say Alright. Your on, you’ve got yourself one date, prove me wrong.

I gave him a free few hours about two weeks out, plenty of time to plan something – or at least make a proper reseravation. Boys take notes, we all can use zagats.com and menupages.com we all have beyond a resonable source of technological outlets.

The day of I get a text with a name and place he already is aware: I have a charity event later that evening.

Date: adorable and cozy wine bar. Reservation: not made. Alternate Plan: not created

Circling city blocks in 4 inch Cole Haan Patent Leather Pumps (seriously? I’m a city girl) I wanted to scream, “I didnt sign up for a nature walk”

Begging to stop, an ice tea at a knock off pick-a-bagel was the conclusion of me being proved wrong.

Moral of this story: Go with your gut ladies. Though the end isnt quite there. No, he then invited himself to my charity event and who am I to turn away money for a good cause? We parted, friendly but with no fire – so why did I wake up to a text thanking me for dragging him to the event?

Now with the guy thing, its not about the age, he wasnt too old, in fact he was 6 years younger than my oldest boyfriend. Gut is about more than facts. So Boys, when you have one shot to prove something, at any age you should be able to do it right.

xVix

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