Manhattanvixen's Blog

Montreal

manhattanvixen — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 17:16:30 +0000

We’ll call the other boy who I’ve bothered to see more than once or twice, Montreal. Its pretty self explanatory.

He is the opposite of CityBoy. He’s a grown up man, solid job, dresses in gorgeous button downs but looks oh so sexy in jeans and a tee shirt or hoodie (its where is broad shoulders really show), he not only picks the best restaurants and chefs but is a fabulous cook in his own right.

Montreal spoils you every second you are with him… until, you are not, until he’s traveling here or there and bbming with many of the right words… but I’m not really into all talk…

…so I’ll have to let you know about the next fabulous dinner with him…

…did i mention, Montreal is HOT

xVix

Halloween…

manhattanvixen — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 16:00:27 +0000

love it or hate it… its a reality in the city.

I am in the hate it crowd, but somehow every other year I forget how much and forgo my evening of scary movies and avoiding crowds to brave a party…

…this year may have been worth it, as I met a boy, and yes I mean boy, not quite a manly man, who hates it too… …our eyes locked, he’s the only man who could truly hold my stare without getting intimidated, it was very very sexy. Our mutual friends watched in awe as we mirrored each other. I so casually slipped my # into his phone that his guy friends praised me and wanted to know how I did it.

My secret, good flirting comes out of the chemistry…and he offered me a ride to my next stop…

….and the next day woke up to a text that had to be shared…

“Hey Vix… So I woke up with a new found appreciation for halloween cause u were on my mind… I hope you’re feeling better. How was your night?”

well I def had a great morning… more to come from this boy, a true city boy. We’ll call him “CityBoy” …but I can’t talk now… late to meet him for brunch

xVix

Singledom

manhattanvixen — Mon, 25 Oct 2010 16:29:58 +0000

Hello Hello!

Been out meeting man after man, going out on 3 dates a week, but sadly nothing exciting had been happening… well that’s all started to change, and I’ve been out having too much fun to post…

…so here goes

xVix

took a break

manhattanvixen — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 17:29:56 +0000

so I mentioned a while back that when I got serious with someone it somehow felt like a violation of trust to write about them.

Well I just got out of something a few weeks ago, and have been thrown headfirst back into the world of dating in Manhattan.

xVix

appologies

manhattanvixen — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 16:38:51 +0000

Winter season is my busiest by far…dating has not slowed so I’m going to start back logging stories…

when to keep silent…

manhattanvixen — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 19:43:23 +0000

I was interviewed for an article on dating – I considered sending them a link to this but then figured the guys wouldnt appreciate it and honestly, I like keeping my identity under wraps. In fact the one man that did find out I was writing this bugged at a mention of himself…

Also, I accidently let it slip that I have a bad habit of booking two or three dates for the same day and average 3-5 a week.

After I meekly ask if that could be off the record… Too late but she assured me it wouldnt be printed for at least a month, so the day of 3 would not be recognizable to them.

I promise, there will be more juicy details to come… and follow up from recent events…

xVix

another quote to share…

manhattanvixen — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 19:46:43 +0000

…been busy working like a bee in this economy…

…and dating almost as much…okay maybe more…

but another great quote from a man:

“Well I am a man. And being a man involves scary movies, football, beer, porn, a love of boobs, ability to grill a steak.” -anonymous (and let’s hope he doesn’t find this!)

xVix

akward questions?

manhattanvixen — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 20:12:00 +0000

So, I’ve been busy busy busy, working being social ect.

I was just talking to an old flame/friend/someone you love to hate and hate to love… You know, we all have one of those.

Well, we’ll call him “boyEBE” and we will quote him.

He messages me in the middle of an intensly busy work day… I respond 30 min later, wondering as to why we are speaking again…

…He’s asked how life is, how his mother is (yes, I’ve seen her more recently than he has) and rambled on about something phD related. Then I tell him about work and a great business accomplishment. No wow awesome, just:

boyEBE: how are things socially?

Huh? I just feel like its such an akward phrasing, consulting my girls (yes I remember the women give bad advice entry from months ago)

GirlieN: do you think he meant dating wise?
Vix: i donno….you think?
GirlieN: i mean i doubt he cares if you are like hanging out w your friends

okay… still just thought I’d share.. a k w a r d….but then again boys who are just that, old enough to be men but still acting like boys often are.

xVix

miss me?

manhattanvixen — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 20:20:41 +0000

asks the Cayanne…via bbm

“miss me” he says…

I respond… “How can I? We haven’t met… but I do enjoy the attention”

xVix

What is maturity?

manhattanvixen — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 15:29:09 +0000

bDAbysitTING

What is maturity? Is it the ability to make responsible decisions? is it the capability of controlling certain impulses? Is it a developed awareness of the existence of others aside from ourselves? Is it all of the above?

It is often said that women mature faster than men. That reasoning is commonly used to justuiy couples where the man is so much older than the woman that the relationship resembles some sort of ancient cocubine arrangement.

We often excuse men’s actions because we say they are just ‘immature’, much like we excuse children’s actions because they dont know any better.

but really, after a certain age, shouldn’t men’s actions be judged on some sort of objective scale where certain behavior cannot just be shrugged off as ‘immaturity’, but rather, should be seen for what it is – character.

we lump actions of the men we love/want to love/date/want to date/try to date/ (and every other arrangement on that scale) into the ‘immaturity’ category when we know that what they’ve done or said is not ok. Because truth be told, when something “not ok” is done, its done for one of two reasons, neither of which we want to face, so just shove the action off into the “immaturity” drawer. Those two reasons are 1) the person is the kind of person, personality and character-wise, that does this kind of thing, or 2) the person doesnt give enough of a crap about us to bother acting differently.

Doing things “ok” rather than “not ok” requires caring, kindness, compassion, sacrifice, and awareness of the needs of the other person. so if a man does something “not ok”, again, its for one of the reasons stated above. That he just is a piece of sh*t, or that he doesnt care enough about the relationship (at whatever stage it is in), so put forth the effort to not act like a piece of sh*t. its really quite simple, but neither is a very attractive option,so off to the immaturity drawer we go.

Ladies, after a certain age, an immaturity that results in a man acting chronically selfishly and self-absorbedly will probably not magically dissolve. In fact, selfishness, when cultivated, only grows and becomes more pronounced with age. So open the immaturity drawer, go through it, see the crap thats gone in there for what it is, and toss it all, along with him, out and away.

-yev